Welcome to the first installment in our Strength-based Mindfulness (SBM) Series! We will spend each one talking about one of 52 strengths required for success in business, relationships and life. Today’s strength is “I am Humble” and in our SBM system, it’s a really powerful package of skills. So much more than just thinking you’re not better than other people!
Strength-based Mindfulness uses an ancient tool (‘I Am’ statements) to attract abundance. Affirmations, mantras and I AMs have been around for a long time. Hindus and Buddhists have been using them since about 1000 B.C. One of the greatest ones in the Bible is just “I am that I am.” But the big perception problem with I AMs is because they are so deceptively simple. They feel too good to be true but I can tell you, after using them for a couple years, they definitely work! And I didn’t even push that hard with them. Sometimes I was casual; rarely did I need to be rigorous. I basically did a ‘pretty good job’ with them and they changed my life.
I’m sure you’ve heard of affirmations. They were used to great comical effect in the Saturday Night Live Stuart Smalley skits. What you probably didn’t know was that the man who played and wrote Stuart was indebted to affirmations and 12-step recovery. He even wrote the “When a Man Loves a Woman” with Meg Ryan, a story about a woman whose beliefs about herself lead her into (then out of) active addiction.
The main reason few people are making a compelling argument for the power of affirmations it that…they’re free! Easier to come by than pennies. People can’t make much money off of you telling yourself who you are. But we can’t help ourselves. We want you to know you powerful you are! Okay, enough set-up. Let’s get into some I AMs!
Come up with three 3 you totally believe about yourself, okay? Things you’re proud of and know, for sure, to be true…
- I am…
- I am…
- I am….
Now do yourself a favor and come up with a target strength. Something you want to believe about yourself but aren’t totally convinced about yet…
- I am…
There you go. You’re in the game now!
Did you know that we humans think about 70,000 thoughts a day? If only seven of those daily thoughts were positive affirmations, could you change your life? Yes! I have. One thought in ten thousand is still a big enough ratio to instigate clear change. And you don’t even need to yell at yourself in the mirror or chant while you pound your steering wheel. I AMs work with a decisive, calm, assertive tone and volume. You’re not convincing yourself; you are simply stating your truth.
We’ll close this post with what I like to call Affirmation Inundation. It’s where we skip explanation and avoid repetition–‘cause it’s boring!–and we just supplement a simple truth with ones that flesh it out. Try saying these out loud (or even just thinking them) assertively:
- I am humble.
- I love being curious about others.
- I love adventure. Having to work hard lets me enjoy what I earn.
- I am free from the need to please everyone I know. Or anyone. I am my own #1 cheerleader.
- I enjoy the ups and downs of life. Roller coasters are way more fun than park benches.
- I enjoy the process of learning, even more than the rewards it provides; I have a constant supply of joy and playfulness.
- Life is but a game. Every loss is a lesson. I feel playful even when I am ‘at work’ or ‘on the clock’.
- I connect with my Higher Power (and an infinite supply of wisdom and energy) simply by applying myself to simple, but captivating, tasks.
- I am in flow; my time flies when I want it to and crawls when I prefer that. My perception of time is ‘just right’.
- I am content with where I am in my life and in my many processes; proving myself worthy in small things will lead to greater opportunities.
- I am happy NOW. So I will be happy THEN. My goals are important to me but my happiness comes first, thank you very much!
- I do not take other people’s behavior personally. The way they act is an expression of the quality of the life they are creating, and that has very little to do with me. I want them to be happy but, when they don’t seem to be, I know it is not about me.
- I am.
- I just am.
Okay, H.O.P.E. family, we’ll unpack humility further in our next post but, for now, just read that list of truths to yourself two more times this week. Especially the last two!
Beloved, enjoy your evolution. See you soon!